Road to Becoming a Doula

Vermont doulaWhy I Decided to Become a Doula

You know I’m a doula… but why? What made me choose this path? Well, I guess in a way, this work chose me. If you were to ask me 5 years ago, during my last year of college, what I would be doing in 5 years, I most definitely would not have said being a doula or even working in any birth related way. I was a Chemistry major with a minor in Spanish at The University of Vermont. I knew one thing, I did not want to work in a lab, but other than that I was very unsure of where my life would go career wise.  I thought most likely I would become a teacher. So, how did I go from thinking of being a Chemistry teacher to a doula?

Finding My Passion

The events that took place from February 28th – March 2nd, 2011, is where my career path changed. My labor with my daughter started February 28th and I welcomed my amazing daughter into the world March 2nd, 2011. During my pregnancy I planned and dreamed of a natural water birth at the hospital. I did NOT hire a doula. I considered it, but wasn’t sure it was worth the money to be honest. My body was made for this. I could do it. Well I didn’t. I did give birth to my daughter, but not the way I had planned. I had a cesarean. Birth is unpredictable. While I felt so much love and support from both my husband and mother and even my nurse, I felt like something was missing. A knowledgeable person, that I had met before and knew my wishes, would give me encouragement, and keep me focused. Labor is hard, hence the name, labor. And not only is it hard for the “birth giver” but for the support people whether that is the partner, mother, grandmother, sister, or friend. I remember looking at my husband. He was tired, he was at a loss for what to do. I think we both needed that support from someone who knew more about birth than us. For someone to say to us, “it’s okay” “this is normal” or “you ARE doing this” “you are NOT a failure”.

Soon after the birth I realized how important support is for women during this time of their lives. Starting from trying to conceive. Please excuse the cheese, but my soul called me to support others. I was recovering and healing, emotionally and physically, from my own birth. I knew that in order to “serve” others, I needed to deal with my own birth first, and I did. Finally over 2 years later I attended my training workshop. My heart soars when helping women. Seeing the strength of a woman in labor and the love and joy wash over her face when meeting her little one for the first time is priceless. I am so incredibly thankful that I have found something that I truly love, that although it is very challenging, is yet so rewarding and fulfilling. I have said for years that “I want a job I enjoy, or at least don’t hate going to.” I found that in birth work.

 What’s Next?

My passion does not stop with birth doula work. I have mentioned this before, but some additional services are in the works that will compliment and add to my birth doula services. I feel this will be able to give my clients more of what they want and need at the ease of getting it from one spot! Sorry folks, but I won’t be letting you in on what is specifically I will be adding, but I am very excited about it and will soon be giving you a heads up.

When it comes to pregnancy and birth, you can never learn it all. There is so much information out there. That is one of the great things about this field is that I get to continue to learn. I am constantly trying to stay up to date and reading and learning more and more. It certainly keeps me busy! Since every birth is different and unique, I learn something at every birth I attend. I plan to keep on learning to offer my clients the highest possible care that I can. This work can be challenging, but I love it!

 

What is your passion? Are you following your dream? Any questions for me? Comment below!